Pastors struggle to have deep and meaningful friendships. Note the words “deep and meaningful”. Most pastors would say they have lots of friends but often they are more shallow than deep and more superficial than meaningful. There are reasons for that. Deeper friendships can be betrayed. Deeper friendships take effort. Deeper friendships can cause jealousy. Lots of reasons.
I recently finished a book called “Grant and Sherman: The Friendship that Won the Civil War”. It tells of the deep and meaningful friendship of these two generals and the extraordinary value they discovered through that. They were very different but with a common goal. They could have been rivals but became allies. Their loyalty, connection and support made each of them better and their success stronger.
Pastors, might you benefit from a closer consideration of developing these friendships? Might you be a better pastor with the friendship of some other pastors? And what if it was more than superficial but deep enough that you could really share and talk and pray and care? What if it was meaningful enough that you cared about their life and ministry and family and future as you care for your own? Might that friendship help you to win some wars?
Pastors, I want to encourage you to develop friends- specifically with other pastors and ministers. It will take effort to call an old friend or cultivate a new one. But it is worth it. It is worth it.
War is coming. Battles will need to be fought. You will need some counsel, some advice and a little encouragement- and so will your ministry friends.
Grant, you need a Sherman. (Minus the burning cities from Atlanta to Savannah, of course!) Take some time to make a friend. You will be the stronger for it.