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“Shut up!” he explained.

The title summarizes much of what passes for discourse and discussion today. We are more likely, it seems, to attack than converse. We tend to disagree so disagreeably. We appear to have lost the ability to have helpful conversations about areas where we may differ. This negatively affects us in our jobs, our families and our friendships.

Perhaps it is partially the result of media and social media. News shows have purveyors of opposing views talk over each other as though the best volume provides the best logic. Social media rewards demeaning attacks with attention and followers as though exclamation points make the point. Is there a better way?

James 1:19 provides some valuable insight for us. “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Here, God’s word gives us three ways to improve our Continue reading

Christians, Kindness and Social Media

Social media carries many blessings. Through it we can connect with others, communicate truth beyond our normal spheres and enjoy humorous moments. Without it we wouldn’t see nearly as many pictures of grandchildren, kittens and breakfasts. (Sometimes we overdo it in those areas, but I digress.)

Social media, however, can also become a swampland of negativity. It often degenerates into name-calling and personal attack. It can play loose with facts and serve to belittle and demean.

What is a Christian to do? Do we join the degraded culture of social media in the mud? Do we ignore the potential good and ban ourselves from the medium altogether?

Here are some thoughts on how Christians might do better in this brave new world we face.

1. Be kind whether in person or on social media. We are to be kind because Continue reading

Grumpy Old Men

I’m on my way to becoming an old man. I don’t think I’ve gotten to the “Old Man Stage” yet, but I’ve probably lived a full one-third of my life. (I’m 57. You do the math and see what you think!) Regardless of how long I live, I’m certainly on my way. And it has me thinking about the kind of old man I want to be.

Having known my share of grumpy, contrary and ornery old rascals, I can say with some assurance that their path doesn’t look appealing. In their wake lies a slew of hurt feelings, broken relationships and angry interactions. They don’t like other people. They don’t even like themselves. Their countenance screams, “Get off my lawn!” Unappealing indeed.

On the other hand, I’ve seen some of the sweetest, kindest and most pleasant older men imaginable. I like the looks of their path. They seem to be having a great time despite the difficulties that come with old age. They laugh a lot, have plenty of friends and inspire others. Their countenance beckons, “What can I do for you?”
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